Robert, 23, they/their pronouns, America
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I think the parenthetical is really the crux to my answer
If we take Parks & Rec non-literally and see all moments where Leslie treats Ann incorrectly and Ann treats Leslie incorrectly as comic impositions by the writers, they’re great friends. There were enough times where they made the same joke that I personally feel uncomfortable saying Leslie isn’t abusive, though.
It’s not so much that there’s a power imbalance* as that Leslie:
1) Builds a mythology of unconditional friendship 5ever, making it harder for Ann to break it off if she ever wanted to
2) Refuses to listen to Ann saying “no”, which is played for laughs but in a literal reading would be scary
3) Frequently brings up the unconditional friendship 5ever when she’s being invalidating
*Neither woman is isolated, and neither woman is in a position of direct power that she wields against the other.
So yeah, that’s why I’m uncomfortable with Leslie as a model for female relationships, but I really can’t say either way on if she is abusive. I appreciate that you bring up Ann’s occasional shittiness too because that lends credence to the “imposition by the writers” analysis.
In case this doesn’t show up in your tag: andromedalogic
treat other ladies like leslie knope treats ann perkins
Wait, Leslie constantly steamrolls Ann’s objections and enlists her in things without her consent. The extreme care & love is great, but like…
If your friend refuses to listen to your discomfort, you deserve a better friend. You deserve to be heard.