Robert, 23, they/their pronouns, America
Originally I was just going to browse homoerotic Homestuck watercolors, but then I decided to talk about feminism.
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I actually got out of Magic around Mirrodin and dipped briefly back in for Zendikar and M13 drafts, so I don’t know! Is there a WUB guild?
final fantasy legend is about eating meat to transform yourself and killing god and that is why i am writing about it
The good news about Jesse bringing a bunch of floggers with them is that every time I make a dad joke I can be appropriately punished
Wow okay so now that I’m a) in the South and b) around people older than 25 and c) in an airport, which requires a certain amount of liquid money to have access to, I should PROBABLY stop assuming anyone is queer-friendly or anti-capitalist. Oh boy.
Actually, a lot of those people are actually just like modern day versions of those folks. We should call them Neo-people-who-defended-Normandy-Beach-against-the-Allies.
Ira said “Do you genuinely feel like you can’t be a lesbian?”
So as far as I can tell all gender is incredibly fake other than being an aesthetic with which one identifies and by which one is identified.
I am not a woman because, while my aesthetic of actions & dress fits within the vastness that is womanhood, it does not fit within the window of actions that one would read as feminine for my body, and said aesthetic DOES fit within the fairly broad aesthetic profile allowed to non-women with my body.
In the same vein, I cannot be a lesbian because, while I am attracted to women and want to support and form friendships and other relationships with them, I feel it would be unfair to market myself as being within the potential range of sexual or romantic attraction of lesbians. Even though I am not a Man, any lesbian who wants to form a relationship with me is some variety of polysexual or polyromantic.
In conclusion, no, I cannot be a lesbian, and it IS because of passing - not because I think non-passing women can’t be lesbians, cuz I know at least one lady who fits that description and is manifestly a lesbian who is dating iirc a lesbian, QED, but because that’s just not who I personally am.
Also, I misspoke because I was in 16yo language patterns - I wouldn’t actually identify as a lesbian if I were a cis woman, because I’d still be bisexual, and hopefully I would continue the pattern I have now of largely ignoring men in favor of forming various relationships with nbs and women.
Bernadett said “what DOES it even mean”
Same. Also, I’m constantly impressed by your understanding of English writing on complex topics; high-five, friend!
Kars said “do iiiiiit wear the sundress”
Em said “I will totally make you a sundress”
HELLS YEAH TOO COOL I have great faith in dressmaking abilities of Em Eudaemaniacal
I feel like (and have maintained since at least age 16) I could be a cis lesbian, but I don’t think I’m a trans woman in this reality
Mostly it’s a disability thing - given the ways I’m disabled, I could do a good “frumpy lady who looks kinda feral” if I naturally produced significant quantities of estrogen. I physically can’t expend the effort to present in a way that would be read as any sort of woman now, though.
I think I’d feel roughly the same about gender as I do now, but wearing the kind of stuff I do now is like
-Status quo: oh yup that’s probably a dude
-‘Mone-swap AU: huh guess that’s a lady
And because part of my current genderfeels are “what does ANY of it even mean”, I would just casually align with womanhood in the AU and am just like “don’t know what’s up but I’m not a woman” now.
For more on presentation and disability, Meda Andromedalogic talks about being a disabled woman pretty much all the time and it’s great
In other news, hells yeah dresses I should get at least one sundress