Robert, 23, they/their pronouns, America

Originally I was just going to browse homoerotic Homestuck watercolors, but then I decided to talk about feminism.

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@transfeminine friends and a stranger whose ask-answer crossed my dash

Hey speaking of Chuck Palahniuk, what up with Invisible Monsters? It’s been like a decade since I read it so it’s probably just unrelentingly shitty about trans women but there was also like a Theme about doing whatever the fuck you want with your body but OTOH this is CPal we’re talking about, it’s probably the shittiest cishet dude take on transness you can get, and the only reason I’m making this post instead of looking it up myself is I don’t want to subject myself to that again if it’s making fun of my friends.

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"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

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Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

  1. You do not respect their rights as an individual.
  2. You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
  3. You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

feferi-captor:

get out your VCR’s it’s time to watch The Prince of Egypt. or you can watch it here.

please don’t watch exodus: gods and kings because it’s icky and racist. you deserve better. you deserve the prince of egypt.

Disability Rights activists were working their asses off for my rights long before I was born. They fought hard to get me curb cuts and accessible bathrooms. They protested so my friends could get sign language interpreters in hospitals and braille menus at restaurants. They stood united when Congress wanted to exclude people with HIV from protection under the ADA. But in working so hard to ensure that my generation of crips would grow up on a better playing field, they had to make some concessions.

So what didn’t we get in the ADA?

Well, we didn’t get a lot of things. We didn’t get the right to services and supports in our own home, we didn’t get punitive damages, and we certainly didn’t get enforcement.

The ADA Is Not Enough by Stephanie Woodward

It’s very important to recognize the disability activists that brought the ADA into existence, as well as the ways our lives would be different without the ADA - including you, parents or guardians or babysitters with strollers, travelers with suitcases, athletes with temporary injuries, and countless other temporarily able-bodied groups.

It’s also absolutely crucial to recognize how much work we have left to do on this, the 24th anniversary of the ADA. The whole article linked above is fantastic and includes lots of details about those three areas - home support, punitive damages, and enforcement.

(via disabilityhistory)

So I don’t have the book near me (packed up ready for the move unfortunately) but Ruth Colker found in 2003ish that somewhere around 85-90 percent of federal appeals court employment cases under the ADA were decided against the plaintiff.

That is, not only do trial courts consistently refuse to enforce the ADA - people who get their case through trial and to an appeal are losing 9 out of 10 times.

The ADA could be so wonderful if judges would enforce it.

(via charlesdingusesquire)

carpebutts: see, now you know why I don't play FPSs

freezepeachinspector: because you can't aim at all?

carpebutts: well it sounds less CRUEL when I say it

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